BDSM Lifestyle Reading Recommendations

Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission
by Claudia Varrin
As the name suggests, this book is an introduction to submission from a female perspective. It's an excellent beginner guide to women who believe they may be submissive, and offers advice and insight into healthy submission. Warmly written, it's probably most useful to newcomers to D/s, and is less likely to be useful to anyone already in a D/s relationship.


Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking
by Race Bannon
A beginner's introduction to BDSM that debunks many of the myths surrounding S&M play and offers examples of scenarios and negotiation techniques. Also includes information on how to create an inexpensive toy collection, safety, finding partners, and a recommended reading list.


S&M: Studies in Dominance & Submission
by Thomas S. Weinberg
A series of essays written in the style of an academic text, this book supports the sociological idea that sadomasochism is not a pathology or deviant behavior, but a healthy sexual lifestyle of shared fantasies.


Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook
by Jay Wiseman.
An excellent how-to manual on all aspects of erotic bondage and bondage play. Published by Greenery Press


Safe, Sane, Consensual... And Fun
by John Warren
Fifteen hot scenarios for bondage, spanking, roleplay and power exchange. This updated edition of mild-to-wild sex scenes is entry-level guide for curious couples. Published by Greenery Press


SM 101 by Jay Wiseman.
This is THE definitive introduction to BDSM; includes a good bit about the psychology of power exchange, why people want to do this kind of thing; ideas for BDSM play; safety tips; etc. Published by Greenery Press